I am a little shy when it comes to sharing my feelings to other people and sharing what is really going on in my life, so it is hard for me to really find someone who can be a true best friend. When I think of a best friend, I think of a girl, because a girl will most likely know what I am going through; I think of someone who won't judge me when I screw up, because I will. I think of someone who has been through some of the same things or at least knows how to handle it. And I think of a Godly women. In my life I have had only one true best friend. I confided in her, I cried in front of her, I screwed up in front of her, and I grew in front of her. She was there when my cousin died and when my youth pastor got fired. Now she is in college and far away. I don't have anyone to talk to now, except for my youth pastors wife. I love her. Her name is Jacki Cananda King. She is amazing. I can talk to her about the sins that I struggle with, about how I am struggling with my future, and about anything. She is amazing and I feel like we are almost the same. She is real with me. She lets me know when I am messing up and rebukes me for that. That is the best friend that I want. I know that I have a best friend in her I just want someone my own age.
How do you find someone who is on the same spiritual maturity level or higher when you are in high school. All the girls at my church are amazing but I couldn't confide in them because of the maturity level factor. I am the oldest one who comes to almost every event. I wish finding a best friend was easier. I have a twin sister but she doesn't want a close relationship. I guess, prayer is the only way I can go right now. If you have any advice please comment. I appreciate your comments.
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Wow. (Sorry, this may end up being long.) This reminds me of what I went through in 7th grade and what I am going through now. I had lived in a town for about 9 years and then my family moved, because my dad found a little church in a very small town that he felt God was leading him to preach at. I had been friends with a girl, Jessica, since 1st grade. Luckily I didn't move to far away, but we grew apart slowly. It took me one year to find a girl I could talk to about stuff, but she wasn't as mature of a Christian as I was (even though I was only 13 I had been saved since I was 6). We grew closer and I felt like I could talk to her about some stuff, but deeper things I needed to talk about I felt like I couldn't talk to her about. Finally, when I was a Senior in high school I started hanging out with a guy that had recently been saved. He grew so quickly in the Lord and matured very quickly also. Later that year we began sharing everything. He need someone to talk about spiritual things and so did I, so we talked to each other. Well, I graduated last year and he is only a Junior in high school this year. I have moved 4 hours away, so we don't get to see each other very much anymore. We are both going through the same thing now. We need someone near us that we can talk about deep spiritual stuff and other random stuff. All the people his age seem to be more interested in romantic relationships (instead of friendships) as well as drinking. He feels like there is no one around him that is as mature as him (as odd as that may sound; don't take it the wrong way). As for me, I have never been good at making friend (I'm just good at being one). I can't seem to find Christian people around me that I can share with. The only solution I have come to is prayer. That and be active in a youth group; one day a good person may come along that you can talk to.
I don't know if this will help or if you got lost in my ramblings, but there it is.
thanks kt*mac. It did. I had a friend who did move off to college like 8 hours away. It's hard. Thanks for your comment
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